What I Have Learned So Far - l

The best religion is doing what Jesus did; everything else is window dressing. The best way to cure depression is beauty, therefore look...

The Two Ways Through Life

The 2011 film, Tree of Life opens with a one of my favorite dialogs. Here it is: Brother. Mother. It was they who led me to Your door....

The Simple Way to Be Productive

The easy way to become productive is to answer two questions: Who am I? What can I do? Once you answer, Who am I? Then what you can do,...

Ultimate Guide to True Love

True love. We want it, but what is it? True love has two vital components: known and loved. That’s how true love works: you must be fully...

13 Ways To Be a Better Leader

In 2014 I was the keynote speaker for the California Association of College Book Sellers conference. College bookstores were starting to...

Terrible and Awful Are Not Mysteries

Why do we do terrible, awful things? No mystery. We are terrible, awful beings. Without teaching, without training, without consequences,...

Why Should I Forgive? – ll

The short answer: It’s good for you.. Look, when you don't forgive others, you transfer old injuries to new or current relationships....

The 3 Types of Apologies

Here are the three different kinds of apologies. Each one has its own unique feel and purpose. If I offended [or, hurt, insulted, harmed]...

The Worst Forgiveness Advice

There are several myths regarding forgiveness. Downplaying a hurtful event is one of the biggest ones. It sounds like this: “It wasn't...

What Glasses Do You Wear?

I wear prescriptions glasses to see close up and far away. It’s rare when I do not wear them. You wear glasses too and it’s also rare...

What is the Worst You Can Imagine?

Often we cause harm to ourselves by replaying memories of our past or by the imaginations of our future. We luxuriate in a jacuzzi of...

Why Should I Forgive? – l

Forgiveness allows you to remember the event without reliving the pain. ―OCM Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will...

5 Ways to Avoid Emotional Vampires

The best and worse things usually happen in the company of someone else. We’re not wired to be alone for too long. We’re just not built...

15 Things I Learned From Traveling

I’v eaten fish from the Krishna River, pizza from Napoli wood burning ovens, soup from roadside Colombian vendors, and Irish and Scottish...

The One Important Principle Dealing With People

What's the difference between an old, damaged $50 bill and a brand new $50 bill? Nothing. A $50 bill is a $50 bill no matter how old or...

Why Is The Soil More Important Than The Seeds?

Dr. Berg-Martinez is a family therapist. She can make great money in private practice, but has chosen to work in the under served...

3 Steps To Assume The Best of Others*

Assuming the best of others means calling out and bringing out the best that is in others. It means caring enough to really see what is...

How Can You Have Fun While at Work?

The following is an excerpt from HABITS: Six Steps to the Art of Influence “Can I speak to you for a minute? In the conference room.” Bob...

Why We Should Give Away Our Work

People think generosity is a good thing. A characteristic of healthy people. A virtue. Of course generosity is a good thing. No arguments...