Octavio Cesar MartinezOct 29, 20182 minWhat is the Worst You Can Imagine?Often we cause harm to ourselves by replaying memories of our past or by the imaginations of our future. We luxuriate in a jacuzzi of sel...
Octavio Cesar MartinezAug 7, 20181 minWhy Should I Forgive? – lForgiveness allows you to remember the event without reliving the pain. ―OCM Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will k...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJul 30, 20182 min5 Ways to Avoid Emotional VampiresThe best and worse things usually happen in the company of someone else. We’re not wired to be alone for too long. We’re just not built t...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJul 23, 20182 minIs God Not Expected or Not Welcomed? – llWhat does it mean for God to “show up”? One popular notion is God “shows up” to fixe our problems, e.g.: cancel or minimize the consequ...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJul 15, 20182 min15 Things I Learned From TravelingI’v eaten fish from the Krishna River, pizza from Napoli wood burning ovens, soup from roadside Colombian vendors, and Irish and Scottish...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJul 3, 20181 minOn Independence Day, Which Will You Choose: Equality, Freedom or Fairness?Equality means equality of access, or the opportunity to do your best without being shut out for unrelated reasons. Equality is not the s...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJun 19, 20182 minWhat Is The Benefit of a Healthy Community?We love the idea of diversity, but we lean towards uniformity. In dress. In beliefs. In thought. In demeanor. Just take a look at your fr...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJun 11, 20182 minA Checklist for Dads - An Early Father’s Day Post In 1983 I made a short list to try to become a better dad. Wrote it down in the back of my Bible. I was in my late 20s. My kids are in now...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJun 5, 20181 minThe One Important Principle Dealing With PeopleWhat's the difference between an old, damaged $50 bill and a brand new $50 bill? Nothing. A $50 bill is a $50 bill no matter how old or d...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJun 4, 20183 min3 Things Forgiveness is NOT1. Forgiveness is not FAIR Forgiveness is not fair. Between resentment and revenge is fairness, but not forgiveness; forgiveness is not o...
Octavio Cesar MartinezMay 28, 20182 min3 Steps and 3 Questions to Insist On ExcellenceExcellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have thos...
Octavio Cesar MartinezMay 22, 20183 minWhy Is The Soil More Important Than The Seeds?Dr. Berg-Martinez is a family therapist. She can make great money in private practice, but has chosen to work in the under served communi...
Octavio Cesar MartinezMay 16, 20184 min3 Steps To Assume The Best of Others*Assuming the best of others means calling out and bringing out the best that is in others. It means caring enough to really see what is i...
Octavio Cesar MartinezMay 14, 20181 min2 Weeks Before She Died, She Called Me.About two weeks before she died, she called me. My mother. We talked for about 30 minutes. I thanked her for all the ways she helped me, ...
Octavio Cesar MartinezMay 9, 20182 minHow Can You Honor a Flawed Parent?Honor your father and mother so that you’ll live a long time in the land that God, your God, is giving you. —Exodus 20 Lux astern, libera...
Octavio Cesar MartinezMay 1, 20182 minHow to Up Your Spring and Summer Clothing GameIf you live in the Northern Hemisphere, then Spring arrived for you on Tuesday March 20th. Summer will arrive shortly on Thursday June 21...
Octavio Cesar MartinezApr 24, 20183 minHow Can You Have Fun While at Work?The following is an excerpt from HABITS: Six Steps to the Art of Influence “Can I speak to you for a minute? In the conference room.” Bob...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJan 30, 20183 minDid God Speak Through Hurricanes Harvey and Irma?Which – if either – sounds crazier to you. Back in September 2017, while promoting her new film, Mother!, the gifted, talented actor Jenn...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJan 23, 20181 minPosting on Social Media Does Not Solve ProblemsIt’s 2018. More and more people are posting about what concerns them, or angers them. or offends them. And of course this means they are ...
Octavio Cesar MartinezJan 16, 20181 minWhy We Should Give Away Our Work People think generosity is a good thing. A characteristic of healthy people. A virtue. Of course generosity is a good thing. No arguments...